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The New Dance of Commitment

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“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”

~Peter F. Drucker

During the summer months, Paul and I were out one evening talking (Paul’s my husband for those who don’t know). During that conversation he said something to me and I could see how it ‘locked in’ for him. Within a few short weeks he had completely changed the trajectory of his life and what he was doing, and I knew that that moment he locked in was the tipping point for all the change he had manifested.

It’s awesome to see, that moment when someone commits themselves fully either to a course of action (that is what I want to do) or to the avoidance of further action (I refuse to do/be this anymore). Both are powerful forces of change once the commitment is made. I’ve known this commitment, have engaged in in many times and I have an inherent sense of the forces that come into play, momentum for lack of a better word, once that commitment is locked in.

As an aside, in case you’re not sure what I mean by locked in, it’s when the commitment is so fundamental, literally at the cellular level, that you can almost see the body shift in response to it. Whenever I’ve made an absolute commitment to something, or someone, it feels as if there’s a core of steel that locks into my spine and the rest of my body comes into alignment around it. You can also start to feel the first stirrings of Universal energies coming into alignment, like a shifting of the wind where all of the ingredients you need to make your commitment manifest start to show up in an astoundingly short period of time and you can even find yourself feeling like you’re riding the tide rather than in any way in control of the changes you’ve wrought.

Now I’ve decided to commit to something very important to me. However, as I started to marshal the energies to lock in around it, the process shifted on me and took me in a very different direction. I’ll try to explain what happened here, it’s still early days on this process for me, but I felt compelled to share it as I know the energy of 2012 is very momentum and movement oriented, hence many of you are getting ready to commit to things right now and I wanted you to have the option to try this approach:

The old way…

If you think back to the way you used to commit, as I’ve mentioned, it was very much self-powered. YOU made a decision, YOU locked in, essentially lighting the fuse for the momentum that would then carry you towards your committed path. All great and good, and the feeling you get from this process is very empowering. Make no mistake, using this approach, you were, in fact, creating shifts in the Universe to bring to you exactly what you’d committed to – the proof is in your results. However, I started to question a few things:

  • What if your approach was limiting. Was your commitment as ‘big’ as it could have been or was it merely a means to shift out of where you were into something different?
  • Using this approach, once you commit, you feel very much like a locomotive building and creating extraordinary momentum, but are you truly enjoying the ride or are you completely focused on the process of ‘getting there’, of seeing your commitment made manifest?

The new way…

Many of you reading this have been on your journey. You know, the journey that has fundamentally stripped away everything that you were to make room so you could step fully into everything you are meant to be, yeah…that journey. Not exactly fun (not even close), but I believe the brunt of it has passed. The ‘new you’ now has to learn some new tools and this Dance of Commitment is one of many you have the choice to embrace.

As a result of your journey you’re a different being. Literally. You are not what you were. You’ve embraced the idea that you are more. It’s time to start understanding what that means and to start actively embracing it. In this case, it means that you have a Universe full of energy at your disposal. Why not use it. It’s there, and it’s infinite. You can’t deplete it, in fact, the more you use it, the more you contribute to it. The Dance of Commitment, in a nutshell, is a conscious choice to leverage that power. Think of your emotions and body as a beacon rather than the tool.You have the ability to quickly and easily mobilize the energy of your commitment, but then, rather than depending solely on the energy you can personally generate, you’re actively sending the energy of your commitment out and literally permeating the air with your intent.

If you’re struggling a bit here with the difference between the two processes, here it is:

With the old approach you carried the load of powering the change you created.

With the new approach you are consciously allowing, and giving carte blanche power to, the Universe to carry the load of powering the change you are creating.

Which approach do you think is more powerful?

Which approach do you think might be a wee bit easier on you and your body?

You haven’t gone through this journey for the sole purpose to continue to suffer and ‘do it alone’. This tool provides you not only with ease of access to an infinite power source, but it also allows you to sit back, relax a bit, perhaps enjoy the journey???. The process of locking in, as empowering as it may be, is hard on the body. You’re literally holding the energy of your intended change inside of your physical body and building momentum from the inside out. With you engage in the Dance of Commitment with the Universe, you can allow your body to relax while the momentum is built by energies outside of you, that are actively working for you, based on your intention. Specifically, this means it does not require your active energy input beyond getting the commitment/intention out there. I’m calling it a Dance because you’re engaging in an actively intimate exchange of energy between you and the Universe. A Dance should be fun and engaging. It should allow you to get out of your head (ahem!) while at the same time trusting your partner to move with you through the intricate steps of your Dance (think flexibility on your part and being open to more). I think you’ll be amazed at what shows up!

Rather than describing my experience, I’m going to give you a bit of a step-by-step instead as it came to me that this is, in fact, a tool that we can choose to embrace, hence you should probably know how to use it.

I recommend being very comfortable and quiet for this process, ideally without interruption. Give yourself a good hour, though it won’t take quite that long.

  1. Be crystal clear. Make the essence (definition, decision, etc.) of the commitment absolute in your mind. Keeping it brief and high level is best, the less detail you provide around your commitment the more power you are giving to the Universal energies to deliver amazing miracles far beyond your imaginings. The more detail you get into, the more you restrict the possibilities. An example might be: “I can’t work here anymore.” Be careful not to get caught up in the how’s related to your commitment, avoid focusing on all of the details that will be related to it, and definitely do not think about any ramifications of the decision. If you’re at the commitment stage, all of that thinking has already been done to death. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD.
  2. Focus all of your emotional energy on making this commitment absolute. No back doors, no half-ways, no saying it but not really meaning it. If you’re still struggling with that, then you’re not even ready for Step 1. To focus your emotional energy, allow yourself to feel everything related to this commitment. In the case of ‘I can’t work here anymore’ allow every frustration, stress, unhappiness, misery, lost opportunity, etc. to build inside of you until you hit a culmination point. When you get to that point, where you feel as if you’re going to explode with it, then put every ounce of that energy into your commitment. Say it out loud: “I’M NOT WORKING HERE ANYMORE!!!” If your commitment is more along the lines of, “I want to move to another country”, then allow the feelings of excitement, adventure, trepidation, fear of the unknown to permeate your body, then do the same, “I WANT TO MOVE TO ANOTHER COUNTRY!!!” (a quick note here – don’t get too caught up in the words want, can’t, etc. Yes, I know all about NLP, The Secret, etc. The energies of intention we’re working with here blow all of that stuff out of the water, so use the language and words that hold the most power for you!)
  3. Focus on shifting the energy outside of your body. When you say your commitment out loud you’ll start to notice a shift in the energies inside of you. Focus on sending the energy of your commitment outside of your body, rather than manipulating them within your body, which is what we used to do when we locked in (we sub-consciously marshaled that energy into a self-powered change agent). When I was making my commitment statement I found that the shift of energy outside of my body actually happened quite naturally, but then I was channeling the process the same time I was doing it, so I don’t want to put any expectations on how it will feel for you. Trust the process. Don’t judge the movement of the energy. For me it felt as if my entire body was saturated, right down to the cellular level, with the energy of the commitment, to the point where my body literally couldn’t contain any more of that energy and it started to permeate outside of my body in waves. These waves actually gained momentum rather than waning in strength the further they got from my body. Trust whatever happens to you – the magic is in your intention for the commitment, your body will do what it does, don’t judge it just because it doesn’t exactly match my description.

Now, just allow. I’ve been tapping into my commitment every day (for about a week so far) and I can still feel the power of it out there. It’s almost as if I can sense on the periphery that things are shifting to make room for me in my new reality, whatever that is. Yes, I’m still taking actual physical action related to my commitment, but I don’t feel ‘driven’, or focused to the exclusion of enjoying and trusting the process. Rather I feel supported, held and energized.

I’ll keep you posted on my progress…the proof, as always, is in the pudding:)

Enjoying the Journey! ~Trish

Peeling Back the Layers…and Layers…and Layers

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I love the onion analogy for our spiritual growth. You know, how we keep ‘peeling back the layers of the onion’. Interestingly enough, the more you get into the onion, the more you cry – both literally and figuratively. Keeps the tear ducts clean I say. Well, I FINALLY  feel as if I’m getting to the core of the onion – where it seems the onion has the most substance – which, of course, means my biggest issues!

I’m feeling like the outer layers of the onion are those that are reflected outside of me, i.e. the ‘Mirror Theory’. If you’re not familiar with this, here’s the lowdown – essentially the Mirror Theory suggests that those people who trigger a strong emotional reaction in you are simply showing you something about yourself that you either don’t want to acknowledge, don’t want to deal with or that you’re hanging on to for some reason. They are your mirror. Click here for a more detailed description.

What I am now finding, is that there is very little that triggers me anymore. I’ve looked at, released, forgiven and let go of the majority of the issues that were able to be presented to me via the ‘mirror’ as it were. So, now that I’m not getting triggered, does that mean I’ve dealt with all of my issues? Uh – NO! In fact, the issues that I am now uncovering are doozies.

Getting to the core of the onion is requiring an entirely different level of awareness. I’m finding that I am more aware of what is (or is not) happening in my interactions with others, but more importantly I’m paying attention to my ‘thoughts’ around those interactions. This is where I’m finding the gems – those HUGE issues that are so deeply ingrained into who I am that they are subconsciously affecting my ability to get where I want to go or to be who I really am.

Here are two examples of what I’m talking about.

Example 1

I went to see a wonderful friend (hey Christine!) who does PSYCH-K work, a wonderful form of energy work that helps you to uncover your fears, beliefs, etc. and then gives you the tools to release them. During my interaction with Christine, she all of a sudden said to me, ‘You have a fear that nobody wants to hear what you have to say.”

Well, to say that set me back on my ass is an understatement. On the one hand, I immediately agreed with her and understood within nanoseconds exactly why I had created that fear. On the other hand I couldn’t believe that I hadn’t already figured it out – it was so logical. And yet, the shift upon the realization of it was HUGE. The whole thing was crazy!

Let me walk you through this fear and where it stemmed from. I have always had the ability to ‘see’. I see the future – not in a psychic way per say, but more because I can put together all of the information I know at any one time and I can sense the energy of where its going such that it creates a picture for me. Some people would say I’ve always been ahead of my time. In addition, I am exceptionally good at reading the energy of others. So, during my career, I had an innate ability to ‘read’ people and situations and I would tell my leadership and co-workers what I thought/felt/saw about it. For example, I could tell who was on-board with a strategic shift in the direction of the company, who wasn’t and who was trying to sabotage. They often referred to me (kindly) as a witch. However, what they didn’t do was listen to me. I got the proverbial pat on the head and was sent back to my desk. Without fail, six months later I’d get a call, “Trish, I wish I had listened to you.” Really??? No duh!

The point here is that I want you to see how this subconscious fear was developed and then continued to be reinforced year after year such that it literally became a part of who I was. Imagine, an author and speaker afraid that nobody wants to hear what I had to say – but there it is!

What’s more interesting…since I released that fear I’ve had speaking engagements coming out of the woodwork!

Example 2

The second example came to me just recently. Paul and I recently met some absolutely wonderful people and we are in ongoing conversations about potential business opportunities. Testing the waters, seeing how we might work together. During every call with these people they would make a comment to the effect of, “Tell us how we can help you make money – we want you to be successful.”

Now, let me be very clear, every time I heard them say this two things were happening simultaneously. First, my HEART knew without question that this was an authentic and genuine request, and that they did, in fact, want us to answer them and that they would do whatever they could to help us get where we want to go. Second, and happening simultaneously, my HEAD was saying, “nice platitude, thanks” just a wee bit sarcastically and I’d smile that secret smile to myself as if I knew something the rest of the world didn’t (not sure what I thought I knew, but that’s what happened).

So, after this happened three or four times I started to get fed up. I KNEW these people were genuine in their desire to help me, so what was with the sarcastic / nice platitude attitude? I went to my room and meditated on this. I specifically focused on trying to understand why my head and my heart were not in alignment and why I would possibly think that there was anything insincere about their offer. Within minutes I had my answer. Are you ready for this? (I wasn’t!) My underlying, subconscious, insidious fear was that nobody wants to help me.

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! Good Lord. So, in I went and released and forgave and let go of that fear. Guess what? You cannot believe the number of people who have stepped forward to ‘help me’ since that day just a short 2 weeks ago.

I’m not sure there’s an easy way to get to the heart of the onion. On the one hand I’m amazed at this point I have anything left to ‘discover’ (I should have kept a list!), but on the other hand, I feel as if I’m close to releasing the biggest, juiciest and yet somehow the simplest of them all. And once the center of that onion is gone, well, I’ll let you know how that turns out for me!

“The Mask I Wear” – From Trish’s Archives

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Don’t be fooled by me.
Don’t be fooled by the face I wear
For I wear a mask. I wear a thousand masks
Masks that I’m afraid to take off
And none of them are me.

Pretending is an art that’s second nature with me
But don’t be fooled,
For God’s sake, don’t be  fooled.
I give you the impression that I’m secure
That all is sunny and unruffled with me
within as well as without,
that confidence is my name
and coolness my game,
that the water’s calm
and I’m in command,
and that I need no one.
But don’t believe me. Please!

My surface may be smooth but my surface is my mask,
My ever-varying and ever-concealing mask.
Beneath lies no smugness, no complacence.
Beneath dwells the real me in confusion, in fear, in aloneness.
But I hide this.
I don’t want anybody to know it.
I panic at the thought of my weaknesses and fear exposing them.
That’s why I frantically create my masks to hide behind.
They’re nonchalant, sophisticated facades to help me pretend,
To shield me from the glance that knows.
But such a glance is precisely my salvation, my only salvation,
And I know it.

That is, if it’s followed by acceptance,
And if it’s followed by love.
It’s the only thing that can liberate me from myself
From my own self-built prison walls
I dislike hiding, honestly
I dislike the superficial game I’m playing,the superficial phony game.
I’d really like to be genuine and me.
But I need your help, your hand to hold
Even though my masks would tell you otherwise
That glance from you is the only thing
that assures me of what I can’t assure myself,
That I’m really worth something.

But I don’t tell you this.
I don’t dare.
I’m afraid to.
I’m afraid you’ll think less of me, that you’ll laugh
and your laugh would kill me.
I’m afraid that deep-down I’m nothing,
that I’m just no good
And you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, my desperate, pretending game
With a facade of assurance without,
And a trembling child within.
So begins the parade of masks.

The glittering but empty parade of masks,
and my life becomes a front.
I idly chatter to you in suave tones of surface talk.
I tell you everything that’s nothing
and nothing of what’s everything,
of what’s crying within me.
So when I’m going through my routine
do not be fooled by what I’m saying
Please listen carefully and try to hear
what I’m not saying
Hear what I’d like to say
but what I can not say.

It will not be easy for you,
long felt inadequacies make my defenses strong.
The nearer you approach me
the blinder I may strike back.
Despite what books say of men, I am irrational;
I fight against the very thing that I cry out for.
I dislike hiding, honestly, I do.
I’d really like to be genuine, spontaneous and real,
But I am afraid.

Please help me to beat down these walls.
A long conviction of worthlessness to break through these walls,
But LOVE is stronger than walls.
Please try to break through these walls, with firm, but gentle hands.
For a child is very sensitive, and I am a child.

Who am I , you may wonder.
I am someone you know very well – for I am every man, woman, child,
Every human being you meet.

Don’t be fooled by me.
At least not by the face I wear.

~Author Unknown

When Truth Resonates

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I absolutely love the community that is developing around The Question Journey. What I love about it is that I’ve decided to share my truth with you. Who I am, without positioning my life or experiences for optimum “effect”. I tell it like it is. Because one of the most powerful things I’ve learned in my journey is that when someone shares their truth it resonates with me- I feel that truth within me. Today’s blog is proof positive that that goes both ways. That when I share my truth with others, it resonates with them as well.

The following was sent to me by Marvin Double, who has been following my blog, Newsletters and Tweets. Marvin often sends me intriguing feedback, but this one touched something inside of me as I am sure it will for many. In order for this to really make sense, I’m including the original newsletter article I wrote:

February 18 Newsletter: Are You Open to Receiving?

When someone gives you a gift for no apparent reason – what is your initial reaction? Disbelief? Wonder? Amazement? Joy? Guilt?

Too often we do not even notice our initial reaction and within a nanosecond we use our habitual reaction – whatever that might be…”Oh no, I can’t accept that”, “What did I do to deserve this?”, “What for?”, “Why are you giving me this?” and of course, for those who actually do know how to receive, “Thank You”.

The more perceived value the gift has, the more difficulty we have in our ability to receive it unconditionally. And therein lies the crux – that word, “unconditional”.

How often have we been bribed, tied to another or otherwise emotionally blackmailed through the use of gifts? Or perhaps you never received them and have no point of reference on which to base your reaction other than it feels “uncomfortable”.

Regardless of how gifts are being offered to you, whether they carry an expectation on the part of the giver or not, if you receive them unconditionally, then that it is what it is – a gift, to you, for no other reason than that you are a child of the Universe and deserving of such. Enjoy it, allow yourself to experience the joy of feeling spoiled, treasure it and yeah, maybe even throw in a Universal Happy Dance! Tell the Universe you want more of it – because YOU deserve it! ~Trish

Marvin Double’s Response:

I just finished reading your newsletter for February 18, Are You Open To Receiving? This struck a cord with me so I felt compelled to make a comment.

I’m a baby boomer, born in 1950.  My parents, while not overtly religious were Baptists and clearly subscribed to the basic tenets of
Christianity.  In our home the principals embodied in the so called Golden Rule were very much in evidence.  Honesty and integrity were sacrosanct as was the more general concept of strength of character.

One of the more pervasive ideas, which is interwoven into this moral tapestry is the idea of self sacrifice.  The idea of thinking of others first or putting others before oneself was so much a part of my family culture that it became imprinted into ones subconscious.  This idea of giving to others was very much reinforced by a larger societal paradigm.

The concept of self sacrifice or putting others first was evident in such simple acts as, never taking the largest piece of cake, allowing
others to go through a door first and demonstrating ones moral certainty by being modest, retiring and self effacing.

All this comes to focus in the basic Christian theology that we are in fact imperfect having inherited so called “original sin”.  The subconscious message within that idea is, we are undeserving and ungrateful beings as a part of our basic nature. We can only fully
benefit from God’s love if we admit this and accept salvation. In the Baptist tradition this acknowledgment is made publicly through the ritual of baptism.

For some this social and religious foundation, illustrated by parents, teachers and civil leaders, can and often does create a high degree of uncertainty as to ones personal worth.  After all, the very idea that even God won’t love us if we don’t first admit we are flawed is a pretty powerful message.

When we are also told that self-sacrifice and putting others first is a way of gaining favor with others and God, the die is cast for many of us to go through life feeling undeserving.  One need not look beyond the example that, as we are told, Jesus died for our sins, to see how the idea of self-sacrifice is used to influence our thinking and behavior.

How many of us go to the grave thinking that we haven’t done enough for others to curry the favor of a righteous demanding and judgmental God?  How many of us live in the long shadow cast by a deep need for parental approval?

Little wonder then, that so many of us have trouble accepting the idea that happiness and abundance are in fact the natural order of things.  That accepting love as it manifests in different ways is not only OK but also part of the divine intention.

Many of us were raised in a culture of scarcity and fear. We are taught that we have no value aside from that which others bestow upon us; that we must know our place, mind our manners and never expect too much from life. It is ours then to strive and suffer and die in hope that we we be acknowledged for our humility and sacrifice.

Shifting from such thoughts into a mindset of universal love, a love which requires no such sacrifice, which need not be earned is not always easy.  You’re message is one which needs to be heard and taken directly to heart.  Thanks very much for putting it out there for all to see.

Namaste
Marvin Double

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Enjoying the Journey! ~Trish

Powerful Journey Shared – Messages from Spirit

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I was blessed to have one of my friends ask if she could stop by today because she had “hit the wall” and needed someone to talk to. She is facing a difficult situation regarding a relationship in her life and has been praying about it for several days now. She has acknowledged that the fear she is seeing in the other person in the relationship is simply a mirror for her own fear, yet she was unable to discover it…until today when Spirit came to her and she was compelled to journal. I cried as she read her journal entry to me and all I could think of afterwards is that there is such power in her words that I wanted to share it with all of you. So I asked her if I could share it, and she said I could.  Pay attention to where she believes she is referring to someone else, and when, in fact, it is simply herself. Truly, there is nothing more that I can add to this:

An excerpt from my friend’s journal:
“As I ponder and pray for guidance from Spirit, it becomes very clear to me that you do not love me but simply need me to protect you from your own fear. The same fear that comes to visit me but that I am embracing and growing beyond. Your fear to be alone matches my fear that I will never be loved.

As I know so well that we can never give away what we do not have inside us, it amazes me one more time how fear is the mask we call love. We see in the other person something we think we lack and they can give us to help quiet that fear. We are all great manipulators of finding ways of running from ourselves instead of meeting our demons head on. Well my mirror, I am facing my demons and going beyond ego to Spirit to find my freedom so as not to make another choice in my life that keeps me stuck and away from my authentic self. We are here in this earth school to live and learn. One thing that is unfolding very clearly for me is that I am much more than my human-ness (ego) and that I am not on this journey alone. Beyond the ego, I am love and the more I open myself to Spirit the smaller my fear becomes.

My goal is to not “need” someone to help me mask my missing parts but to become whole on my own. Then, and only then, will I go into relationship with a “want” of sharing me and no longer a “need” from my fear. I encourage you to face your own demons but I am also very clear that we don’t usually do this until we hit the wall.

Have no fear, you will find someone willing to do the dance with you. I know you don’t want to do it anymore as I have been doing it for most of my life and recognize your need. You are such a beautiful person and the embodiment of love and you are the only one who can come home to it if you choose. I think, for me, it was the pivotal moment when I realized and took total responsibility for myself and surrendered to my higher power. No longer do I want to make choices that give me such pain.”

Enjoying the Journey! ~ Trish

Choosing to Live – May be More Difficult Than You Think

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Choose2Live – there’s a very good reason that Paul and I chose this as the name of our business – primarily, because most of us have not chosen to live, at least not consciously. Does that seem like a crazy statement to you? It’s not in my experience. Even when I had first gone through my 1 year of detox and cleansing to eliminate the Scleroderma I was diagnosed with in 1998, I found I was still “holding on” to the disease because being in a war with it was easier than moving forward and claiming my life. It takes courage to truly live and far too many of us are hiding behind our 9-5, rat-race, constant chaos lifestyles to even realize what we’re missing. Stop and think about how often in a day YOU are the one making the decisions about what you do and how you spend your time. I would hazard a guess that greater than 90% of your decisions in a day are dictated by someone else – your boss, your partner, your kids, your clients. Where are YOU in all of this?

I’ve also often heard it said that “sometimes it’s easier to simply die than to choose to live.” This is more prevalent than we may believe, the story below is yet another illustration – and while you might say to yourself, “Trish, she has a headache, she’s not dying”, I say to you, “you’re absolutely right, but is she living? And if you’re not living, what are you doing?”

The following story is from Magnus at www.tapping.com

“One time that I did get out of the house was to go to a friend’s birthday party, and I met a girl.  I believe I was meant to meet her, but not for the usual reasons…

She asked me what I did and conversation turned to Tapping. I explained a bit about it, and that basically I was a healer, albeit one that preferred to work with confidence and success.

She asked if it worked on headaches, and I told her yes it did – why, did she have one now?

In fact she’d had a headache for a year.  Doctors were at a loss, she’d seen several of them, and all they could do was tell her it was probably to do with stress.  She’d quit her job abroad and come home after a few weeks with the headache, and hadn’t worked since.

I asked her how bad it was out of 10, and she said a 6.  After five rounds of tapping it was a 3.  But then she told me to stop.

I said not to worry, if we carried on, it would almost certainly disappear completely, and permanently, and then she could get things back to normal.

She said that’s what she was afraid of.  If the headache went, she’d lose her disability benefit and would have to get a job.”

Magnus has just written a book about tapping (aka – EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique) and continues by saying: “If you are the sort of person who would rather have a headache than a life, it’s not the book for you.”

I couldn’t agree with Magnus more. In fact, I will often tell potential clients, “Don’t come to see my until YOU ARE READY. Truly ready. I’m not interested in spending my time and gifts with someone who is not truly ready to heal themselves.” This is why the logo for The Question Journey says, “Are You Ready?” I understand and honour that not everyone is. It is simply the way of things, however, I ask you to consider whether or not you are ready – and if you are, what, exactly, are you ready for?

Enjoying the Journey!
~Trish

Do You Have Regrets?

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Do you have regrets?

What are they?

What would you change if you could?
Regrets are often associated with guilt and are also the result of not stepping up – whether consciously or unconsciously. If we step into facing our fears and doing those things that give us joy, no matter how difficult they may seem at the time, we live a life with no regret.

We can either live our lives this way:
“I have no regrets, I wouldn’t have lived my life the way I did if I was going to worry about what people were going to say.” ~ Ingrid Bergman

Or this way:
“The only things I regret…are the things I didn’t do.” ~Joe Karbo

May I suggest:
“You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you. The message, therefore, is clear. Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savor it. Value your present moments. Using them up in any self-defeating ways means you’ve lost them forever.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Enjoying the Journey! ~Trish

Are You in the Vortex?

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I laid on my bed the other day and I surrendered. I have done everything I know how to do. I have forgiven; myself and others. I have surrendered by handing my problems, fears and issues over to Spirit. I have let go. I have stepped up. I have committed to this path. I have left behind everything that I know; my job, my security, my attachments, my expectations, my fears. I have stepped fully into this path as a healer and as the “mother” of The Question Journey - giving birth to it. I don’t own it, it wasn’t my idea, I was inspired. I received the message about what the book needed to be at the same time many others did. Already I am beginning to see other books of a similar nature. Why, because I have spent time in the Vortex, so have you, so have many others. That time in the Vortex is where we have the opportunity to catch the threads of ideas that we can then put energy into to manifest that idea into reality – or not. So many ideas, so many options, so many energies, so many decisions. So much conditioning and so many self-limiting beliefs to overcome to see the purity of the ideas and to put pure energy into them. I’m going to cross the line and hand myself over in any way I can to become part of the Vortex. I have paid my dues. I have suffered. I have learned through painful lessons and lessons of joy. I have known the spectrum of emotion from unconditional love to hatred. My heart has been bruised. My emotions have been ripped from me by others. I have seen my shadow in a thousand people. I have learned to love myself. I have forgiven myself. By stepping into the Vortex, do I not expand it and make it more available to others?

I invite you to watch this beautiful Abraham-Hicks video (stay with it till the end!)

 

Enjoying the Journey! ~Trish

Success or Failure

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“Failure’s hard, but success is far more dangerous.  If you’re successful at the wrong thing, the mix of praise and money and opportunity can lock you in forever.”  – Po Bronson

Which do you fear more – success or failure? This question is much more complicated than it seems on the surface. As per the quote above, there are many, many layers…

The first question is, “What does success look like for you?” If you answered – a big house, cool car, no debt – that’s not quite what I’m referring to. I would be looking for answers more along the lines of: I jump out of bed in the morning and can’t wait to start my day, I’m living my passion, I LOVE what I do, I KNOW I am doing my work in the world – I am sharing my gifts with others…etc. I would recommend that you get really clear on what success looks like for you.

I believe that if we are not doing the work we are meant to do (rather than the work we fall into or end up doing by default) that we will often come up against, or more specifically subconsciously create, our own sabotage event to keep us from truly reaching the ledge we’re so busy striving for. We’re close, we feel like we’re getting there, but we never quite hit our stride – or perhaps we do hit our stride, but we feel unfulfilled because our stride is taking us down a path that is further and further away from where we truly want to be (rather than what we think we want to have).

Our fear of failure, on the surface, may look like one thing, but is likely something else altogether. Typically we will look at a fear of failure as not being able to meet our career or relationship goals – goals set by ourselves, by our higher-ups, by our company, by our shareholders, family, customers, etc. I call these surface failures, as they are all an illusion comprised of your own judgments and the judgments of others – real or perceived.

I believe that the much greater and more powerful fear of failure comes from our fear that if we were to truly stand in our power and choose to walk the path of our passion and share our gifts with the world, that we would somehow come up lacking. That we would not quite be enough, that we wouldn’t measure up (although we rarely consider whose measuring stick we’re so concerned about). Stepping out of the comfort of the corporate world and jumping head first into walking into my power to share my gifts with the world has been nothing short of terrifying.

With the comfortable illusion of surface fears in the corporate world, I could create walls to block out the criticism of others – it’s just a job. I could work harder to accomplish all of my goals while I work myself into the ground and put my family and health at risk. Then again, there was also the safety net of simply getting another job. I could even jump into another arena altogether…there was always an escape route.

When you choose to walk in your power and be true to your spirit, your path and your gifts, there are no walls, there is no escape route, you are putting yourself out there, naked as it were, for all the world to see. Faith in yourself is paramount. However, as much as it may sound as if this path is much more restrictive without all of the safeguards we are used to – in reality, it is absolute freedom. Freedom to be your authentic self, freedom to choose to be who you really are. It is difficult to find the words to explain my experience with this – except to say that I feel full – full of light, full of love, full with a plethora of opportunities before me, but more importantly, full of WHO I AM.

Enjoying the journey! ~Trish